Nice Gifts for Shitty Situations
When a friend or a loved one is going through shit, the worst thing you can do is nothing. A bouquet of flowers, a casserole delivered to their doorstep, or an offer to watch their puppy for a few hours is a powerful assurance that whatever they’re going through, they’re not alone.
When you’re offering your time, take ownership of a task and be specific. While offering “whatever you need” is all well and good, it puts the onus on your friend to reach out and ask for help when something comes up, which can feel difficult. It’s much easier to accept someone’s direct offer to mow your lawn at 10:30 on Saturday or to watch your kids while you’re at an appointment.
Although a condolence gift is less about the gift than the fact you are there, we like to match what we give someone with the specific ways they cope with difficult times. We’ve gathered some ideas below—along with florists who ship nationally and the goop recipes we turn to when we want to drop off food to a loved one.
For the Self-Carer
Me time speaks to this person. Bubble baths, face masks, and comfort TV may be involved.
Yoga in a Cup
Heated Neck Wrap
“The Martini” Emotional
Detox Bath Soak
Hydrating Eye Mask
Forbidden Fruit Puzzle
For the Person Who Always Sweats It Out
It can be healing to drop out of your head and into your body—here are a few things that can help.
LoRox Aligned Roller
Weighted Wrist Bangles
For the Venter
Letting it all out can be a powerful way to process emotion, whether that means
dumping thoughts onto a piece of paper or finding the right listening ear.
Wine of the Day
SommSelect, prices vary
Therapy Gift Card
Talkspace, from $79
Magic of I, $28
For the Spiritual Traveler
If they feel more themselves after an energy healing, they might find something meaningful in these gifts.
Inner Compass Cards
Burner Incense Set
Singing Bowl Set
Remote Shamanic Reading
My Inner Sky
When In Doubt, Send Flowers
A bouquet of flowers is the default for a reason. It lets someone know you’re thinking
of them while adding a small moment of joy or beauty to their day.
Floom, prices vary
The Unlikely Florist, from $50
Tiny Feelings, from $100
For more local blooms, check out our guide to the best florists in every city.
The Next-Gen Casserole Drop-Off
If making dinner is something you can take off their plate, do. Each of these recipes is great fresh but also freezes well. Which is helpful for your recipient: When something bad happens, people tend to get inundated with fresh food at the beginning. When those deliveries start to drop off, they’ll have this stash in their freezer.
(And a gift card to their favorite takeout joint? Wonderful idea, too.)
with Salty Butter
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